Happiness & Stress Soothers

It’s not your job to solve their conflict. You’re a party organizer, not a therapist! Edith Wagner, editor of Reunions magazine, recommends that both relatives be invited. "Then what usually happens is that neither will attend," she says.

If both RSVP yes, ask a respected elder (such as your sweet-natured grandma) to encourage them to put aside their feud for the day -- or just avoid each other -- to keep the event peaceful.