Before you go:

Make a list of specific points you want to discuss and questions you'd like to ask. Take note of any health issues and write down symptoms, dates they occurred and anything else that seems significant. Here are some things to ask yourself ahead of time:

• Have you had a change in energy level or moods?
• Any changes to your menstrual cycle?
• Do you have any lumps, bumps or new or suspicious-looking moles?
• Noticed any changes in frequency of urination or bowel movements?
• Have you had any unusual reactions to food, dust or environmental triggers?
• Have you noticed that you're gaining or losing weight?

In the waiting room:

• If you feel anxious about the appointment, breathe deeply from your diaphragm to help calm down. Inhale slowly to the count of eight, then exhale slowly through your nose.
• Reflexology can also help ease your nerves. Press your thumb into the center of your opposite palm. Push in to the count of two, then ease up to the count of two. Repeat three times on each hand.

During the appointment:

The average doctor's appointment lasts only about 10 minutes, so you'll want to be prepared with questions. If you're experiencing odd symptoms or have an unusual medical question, don't be afraid to speak up. Remember, doctors have heard it all. Also, update your physician if your family history has changed, or if you're taking any new prescription, over-the-counter or herbal medicines. And to protect your health in the long term, be sure to ask the following:

• How is my weight? Should I be doing anything differently with my diet?
• Are there any conditions I'm at risk for?
• What can I do to reduce my risk?
• What signs or symptoms should I watch for at this stage?
• What screening tests do I need?
• When should I schedule my next checkup?

If you don't understand something, ask your doctor to explain it another way, or see if there's a book, pamphlet or Web site she can refer you to. Don't worry about asking a "silly" question. It's your health, after all!